Tuesday, April 29, 2008

A Question For You...

While cleaning today, I came across my wedding dress. I need some advice. Should I keep it or should I donate it?

PROS of keeping it:
* It's a beautiful reminder of my and Alex's love.
* It cost a gajillion dollars and I only wore it once.

PROS of donating it:
* I will never wear it again.
* It cost a gajillion dollars, I only wore it once, and someone else who can't afford a gajillion dollars could make excellent use out of it.
* I don't have any daughters to pass it down to. If my kids marry (girls), those girls will likely not want to wear their mother-in-law's dress.
* I have a lot of photos of it, so I don't really need the dress.
* Since I've been married, I haven't looked at it.
* It is sitting in a box in my basement, hopefully not getting moldy.


I have set up a poll in my sidebar for you to help me make this decision. If you are Alex, your vote counts as two. If you are my mom, who paid for the dress, your vote also counts as two. And don't forget, it's entirely possible that I will totally disregard your advice anyway.

Also, if you know of a place that takes donated wedding dresses, let me know in the comments. Thanks.

15 comments:

Kelly said...

I want to say donate b/c that's what I know I should do, I just can't bring myself to do it.

There is an awesome organization that takes wedding dresses. I'll have to see if I still have the link for it somewhere.

Anonymous said...

You didn't tell us what your husband thinks.

Stimey said...

I don't know what my husband thinks. Alex?

Thrift Store Mama said...

It's a tough call, but think of the people who could use it. There used to be a store in Rockville, I Do, I Do that was a wedding dress consignment store. I sold mine there within a few months after the wedding and used the proceeds for a down payment on a condo.
Your long lasting marriage and three children are also a pretty good "beautiful reminder of my and Alex's love"

practiceliving said...

I voted for donating it.

There are lots of organizations that will take wedding dresses - Brides Against Breast Cancer and The Brides Project spring to mind.

If you don't want to donate and don't want to keep it - what about consignment?

Carrie said...

good post! I have my wedding dress sititng/hanging in our coat closet. I actually tried to sell it on craigslist a couple of years ago but no takers. I really need to do something with it.....

Emma said...

I also have a wedding dress, all folded up under my parents bed (they are saints!)

I've looked into the cost of preserving it (dry cleaning companies offer this as a service), which would be £80 ($120 i think...).

I'd like to sell it on e-bay, you should look into that. The wedding season is coming up so there may be people looking. Then you get the money for it!

Anonymous said...

You could cut it up into cloth napkins.

P.S. you looked very beautiful on your wedding day.

Cara Fox said...

I would be the wrong person to ask. My own wedding dress is preserved, but just as useless as yours, boxed up in the corner of my son's closet. Today,I came across another wedding box of mine. I was able to part with the filled-out invitation response cards (really!? i saved these!?) and a cracked plastic plate from my bridal tea that had mine and my husband's faces silk screened on it (overzealous, but well-intentioned bridesmaids). Still in the box: every shower, bachelorette party, and wedding card i recieved with the giver's gift written on the back of it, as well as all of my registry materials and my wedding planner. Just couldn't bring myself to purge too much. The dress will stay put for at least another 7 years, I suspect...

Stimey said...

Cara, I have all that stuff too. For some reason, I'm more sentimental about that than the dress.

Ann said...

I not only have my wedding outfit, I have my mother's!

This is the kind of decision that sends me into total paralysis . . . but my gut says keep it.

tulipmom said...

Mine ia still hanging in my parents' spare room closet. I never had it preserved but I don't think I could part with it ... even though donating seems like the "right" thing to do. I say keep it.

Your wedding photo is just beauitful.

Sue said...

OMG! You were such a gorgeous bride!! That picture looks like it should be in a magazine. I say, if you are torn, you should keep it. You can always decide to pass it on later.

My dress is in a box under my bed. It cost a very small amount of money, I am almost positive my daughters would never wear it, even I probably wouldn't pick it if I were to get married all over again. But, there it sits. I can't get rid of it yet. Maybe I'll let the kids use it for dress up one day. *shudder*

Creative Kerfuffle said...

mine is hanging in my closet. i think i've looked at it once in 16 yrs. my aunt made it. i love it and tho i know the girl would never wear it i'm thinking maybe she could have someone make it into something she'd prefer?
i too say keep it if you're torn.

Cara Fox said...

those filled-out invitation response cards i was going to trash? my normally extremely unsentimental husband with a heart of stone found them in the laundry room trash can and asked me why i was getting rid of them. are you kidding me?!?! they are now back in the damn closet with the un-cracked plastic photo plates. ARGH. one step forward, two steps back...